The First Trimester

Since I have just started documenting the pregnancy journey, I wanted to get down a few notes about what the first trimester has been like before we jump too quickly into the second.

Top 5 – Highlights:
1) Obviously, the first highlight of pregnancy was finding out that we were pregnant.  We were hoping to get pregnant so I was paying pretty close attention to the calendar and took my first test on day 29 of that cycle.  The first test looked pretty negative (the faintest of faint second lines could barely be detected), but I proceded to take 1 each morning until we got a sure positive, 4 days later…on the morning of my first day of work.  🙂  So that was quite the day.
2) The next major highlight was our first ultrasound at 7 weeks, 5 days, where we got to see the baby for the first time and hear the heartbeat.

Waiting to go in for ultrasound #1!

Waiting to go in for ultrasound #1!

This was still before we had shared the news with anyone and it was a moment that Michael and I will always remember and cherish together.
3) Another huge highlight is that we were able to tell our families in person over Christmas break.  I always assumed that living here, we would probably have to share news like that over the phone or something, so we were especially thankful that God orchestrated the timing which allowed us to tell them in person.  I’ll post about the holidays soon and include more details on it then, but that was very special for us.
4) The next fun blessing was last Thursday’s ultrasound that I posted about before.  It’s hard to explain but part of me was wondering if there was even still a baby in there!  It’s weird when you can’t really see anything growing so it was a relief to be able to see it again, hear the heartbeat, and learn that it’s doing just fine in there.

The technician wrote "Hi Daddy" on this one.

The technician wrote “Hi Daddy!!” on this one.

5) Finally, it was so much fun getting to share the news.  Everyone has been tremendously encouraging has just made us feel totally surrounded by love and support.  So thank you!!

I do count myself as fortunate because I have only thrown up once so far.  That being said, it has not been an easy couple of months.  I didn’t really feel anything at all until about mid-way through my 6th week, and then it all started to hit.  I have had major exhaustion where I just wanted to sleep all day.  I felt nauseous, sick to my stomach, I had no appetite whatsoever and had strong aversions to lots of foods that had previously been some of my favorites!  Further, I started getting daily headaches around 5 or 6pm when my body would just start shutting down and all I would want to do is sleep.  All of this has not been awesome and has rendered me pretty much useless.  And to be honest, I’m still kind of in that useless stage.
Thankfully I have a husband who is the opposite of useless and has been beyond incredible.  Michael has cooked almost every meal (including making me morning smoothies!) and has basically done all of the dishes, grocery shopping, and generally everything else to allow me to rest and focus on taking care of myself.  I can’t imagine how tired he must be of this first-trimester sickness business, but he’s been so kind to me and made me feel very lucky and loved.

Emotional Experience:
Of course the overriding emotion throughout the pregnancy so far has been thankfulness and excitement.  However, there have definitely been times where other things have crept in as well.  First of all, it was a little emotional to be starting a new career at the very same time that we learned about the pregnancy.  Then, the sickness and exhaustion are a little emotionally taxing, but it never felt too badly because it has always seemed like a temporary condition that was sure to change eventually (right?!).
Also, I don’t know if other people go through this, but there was a period of about 48 hours where I felt very nervous about the way our life will soon be changing.  The truth is that I love our life.  I like it just being Michael and me, doing whatever we want, sleeping in late on the weekends, going off on fun trips at the drop of a hat, enjoying date nights together…and I felt a little panic-y about the idea of all of that changing.  And it’s weird to have thoughts like that when you know that the decision has already been made and the baby is already…there.  Naturally, these thoughts made me feel mega-guilty and embarrassed so of course I didn’t want to tell anyone, but I did tell Michael.  He was super comforting and told me that it’s normal to be a little freaked out about it, but that it will be so great and just add to the adventure of our lives together.  Honestly, just talking about it made me feel better and I haven’t felt this way since, however I wanted to share it just in case anyone else ever finds themselves feeling this way.

OK – well this has been a LOT already so I’ll stop here!  Here’s to the 2nd Trimester being better than the 1st.

10 thoughts on “The First Trimester

  1. I am so happy for all 3 of you!!! CONGRATS!!!
    All that you’ve been feeling and experiencing are all normal and preparing you for the change that is coming when you add another little human being.

  2. Hi Ashley,
    My name is Juliana and I think that it is pretty cool that you are documenting your pregnancy. I live in São Paulo and am pregnant with my second child the same week as you are. When I was pregnant with my first child (he is a toddler now), I had just started a new job and so much went through my mind, from ´how will I tell my bosses?´to ´should I put my career on hold or go back to work right after my leave?´, all with the overwhelming joy that my husband and I felt about having our first baby. And it takes a while to hit you that you are actually carrying a baby, but it certainly does when you feel the first kick.
    Anyway, from one mom living in São Paulo to another, if you need any assisatance let me know.
    Best and congratulations,

  3. Praise God from whom ALL blessings flow. This little Harper is a miracle of God – as we all are. Blessed you are among women, Ashley! Love, Papa

  4. Pingback: Pregnancy #2 – So far. | Jeans & A T-Shirt

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